Every family fight about an aging parent's care sounds like it's about love. It isn't. It's about calendars, money, and who takes Thursday.

Who Takes Thursday makes a simple, practical case: sibling caregiving conflict is a logistics problem wearing an emotional costume, and it responds to structure, not more feelings talk. This book skips the therapy language and gets straight to the mechanics: how to make invisible caregiving labor visible, how to split tasks by real capacity instead of who happens to live closest, how to divide costs fairly when incomes aren't equal, and how to write an actual agreement that survives contact with real life.

You'll build a full task inventory, a capacity-based assignment framework, a money-splitting model, a rotation calendar with a real backup plan, and a written agreement every sibling signs onto, plus specific guidance for the sibling who won't show up, the one who lives far away, and the holidays and emergencies that reliably blow up an unplanned arrangement.

This isn't a book about processing your feelings toward your siblings. It's a working system for making sure the actual care gets covered, fairly, without one person quietly absorbing years of unpaid labor while everyone else assumes things are fine. Read it straight through, or jump to whichever chapter matches your family's current crisis.